The person that suffers the most in a case like this is the parents and other friends and relitives that are left behind. Hopefully his family and friends can get over this in thier time of need.

Innocent until proven guilty. He died as an innocent man. This is a tragedy. My sympathies to all who loved him. Since he dead, no negatives need apply.

This poor little 6 year old boy has been thru enough! Buddy was the bad guy in this case.

I would have to agree with areader. The comments left by a few represent the vagrancy of intellect on part of some.

A wise man once said, he who is without sin let him cast the first stone. So who here can sit back in judgment and cast stones thinking that they are pure? I sit back and wonder how people can become so blinded and why some people choose such a darkened road; I don't know why Buddy chose this road, what led to the decisions he made. However, he will be judged fairly before Christ.

I do feel bad for the family and pray for them.

I would like to say that I am truely sorry to the family of buddy stevens. while it is a crime what he did , he is still a human being. to the people who can only see one side to this story, think about what may have been done to buddy himself. he looked at photos online, the man from michigan however, sexually abused his own children over the internet. who is the perp here? again, i am truely sorry to buddy's family and friends. while i am not saying that what he did was not wrong, i am saying that people's ignorant and tasteless comments are most definately wrong. again, my condolences to the family who lost their son, brother, uncle, and friend.

thank you to the bangor daily news employees for finally removing this man bill from otis' disgusting comments.

Good old Bucksport.

One less pervert walking the earth with our children is a GOOD thing! If only these freaks would end their miserable lives BEFORE they hurt kids, the world would be a brighter place!

Gypsyeyes, yes the man who abused his kids online should also be dead. I hope he takes a lesson from old buddy boy!

I lost a dear friend to suicide several years ago and still think she could have been helped. This way of death just seems to create more victims.....I also think that the word unexpectedly in the obit should be changed since HE was expecting it. If more people knew how many suicides there are perhaps more would be done to prevent it. My condolences to all involved.

he who is without sin? you've got to be kidding me. i know i'm not but my sin is of this nature.

this guy chose to take his own life. i apologize in advance, but i feel no sympathy.

Sorry for all who has been involved. Very sorry for the children. I am glad I am not paying to rehabilitate and feed this ass. I was molested as a child by a day care providers son. HANG them all!!! I feel very sorry for his family but they knew what kind of a person he was. It is rare that actions like this a re a secret, maybe denied but not un-noticed.

I am sorry to Buddy's family.... Has they say the apple does not fall far from the tree!!!!!

He ddi the crime,but didnt want to do the time!Loser pediphile rot in hell Elmer!

First of all, I happen to know Buddy's sister, Tammy. She is a wonderful and warm, caring person, and I pray she doesn't see any of these comments.

Buddy did not directly hurt any children himself, he solicitated a film of someone else abusing his own child. I have no idea what was in his mind at the time.

I AM NOT EXCUSING ANYONE WHO ABUSES A CHILD. However, those that do, it is usually because they are not capable of having a relationship with another adult. They are so powerless in their own lives, kids are the only only ones they can have power over. Sometimes, it is because they have been abused by others.

It was a wise man indeed who said "He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her. " Jesus was the one who said it

"So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, " He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her. " (from John 8:7) .

BURN IN HELL

naughty rapist!

I agree with the innocent until proven guilty comment... But I think he felt "guilty" otherwise why commit suicide? Wonder if the note was a confession and or apology. Too bad for his family, there is never any closure with suicide.

Maybe he wanted to spare his familty the ugliness of a trial. Maybe he did something really dumb and was humilated by his arrest. Maybe's he has seen some of us commenting on other things.

To those ye casting stones at someone ye have judged a sinner: I am standing on the sidelines watching. I am not without sin.

Ok, most of you people on here are nasty people. I don't approve of anything he has done, but that doesn't mean it should end up like that. I know his family, and they are wonderful people. To the person who put the apple doesn't fall far from the tree, you need to stop judging others by the actions of one. He was family to those people, and treated them very well. Better then you probably imagine. Again, what he did was wrong. But have a heart, you're sick. How would you like to be judged from something someone in your family did. No one has a completely clean family background. You want people to bring that up and attribute that to you as well? I hope someone does. Again, you're a sick person.

A lot of you should be ashamed. I am bestfriends with Buddy's neice and as a matter a fact to one of you idiots, Buddy's family did not know about what he had done. To the person who made the comment "the apply doesn't fall far from the tree" you personally should be delt with! Just because one family member makes a mistake doesn't mean that the whole family is that way. Buddy may have done this one mistake but he was a great guy. I have known him since I was little and he never did anything to any of us or ever caused us harm. He was a good guy and will be missed. Just remember that these comments are public and his family and friends can read them so your idiotic comments do not make this time any easier! We will all miss you Buddy!!! <3

No one knows why Buddy did what he is accused of doing, or if he is really guilty of anything. Maybe he came in contact with someone who was doing something bad and was going to try to turn them in. It is a possible scenario. To the person who wrote, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree, do you know something the rest of us don't. IF YOU DO, KEEP IT TO YOURSELF!!

One time when I was working, I tried to write a script (Javascriipt) for an application that my company was developing. It was just something I was playing with in my spare time. I inadvertently found a huge security breach at the Securities and Exchange Commission, a division of the Department of Justice. I could have been in a lot of trouble. I reported myself to someone much higher up on the corporate ladder and being a former SEC employee, he intervened and explained how I discovered what I did. I went from potential jail time to being a hero. It doesn't take much.

sick SOB got what he deserves and he knew he did ..thats why he did what he di and took his own life !! The Lord works in misterious ways

mysterious ways even ;)

Do you blame him for not letting his family know. My Dad would shoot me.

raysgurl & klutz7269 Are you sure? Alot of these POS are the nicest guys. All the people that know them say oh how great they are. The truth is they are Evil doers. The devil comes in sheeps clothing. You bringing GOD into this is rather sacreligious. Your god allows this? I dont know about that. I think all GODS fight the battle of Evil. They have to show it to make you see. You missed the boat big time. I was molested as a child. I do feel bad for BUDDY and his family. I feel bad for the children that have been offened b/c of POS like him. I have a 5 yr old daughter, 8 yr old nephew. I cant imagine a POS like this living next door to me watching my kids? Thinking of them in that way! I would say his family and friend already know what the public thinks. Yes they loved him and now they know his SIN!!! I am not w/o SIN. My SIN is a little lie, I forgot to pay for my drink at Walmart once, ya know things of that nature. NOT SEALING INOCENCE FROM THE ONLY PURE THINGS IN THIS WORLD!!! OUR CHILDREN. You 2 better check your heads. I forgive all of you and BUDDY! I could not forgive him if he was still walking amongst us leaching off us 4Ever. Could you forgive your selves if he was still here and harmed a child you know? Could you imagine? I think there is no fixing these POS. This is natures way of fixing it!!! Sorry for all of your sadness, in your sadness comes great anger in others, and unimaginable life for the the children that have to live with it 4EVER!!!

If you know something, tell someone and don't worry what people think. Perps continue when their victims 'keep it to themselves'.

If he was so damn innocent why did he kill himself?

Bucksport is a City of Sin

same with lewiston

damn heathens

burn in hell RAPIST

What I don't understand is, just because he had a good family and was a nice person and made maybe this one mistake we should all stop the comments that say he's a sick, twisted, and will burn in hell and what not? So, if his family was a bad family, all these comments would be okay? I just don't get it. Anyone who solicits images, even one time, of a child being raped is just not okay, no matter how nice they were, how "good" their family is, it doesn't make it okay. I would bet his life that someone somewhere was hurt by him, but choppadave is right, silence keeps sexual abuse alive.

but Cherry, what if this guy tried to procure pictures of your child?

Then what?

if this happened to my kids (i don't have any) I would find this guy and take him out. i wouldn't care about jail, i'd be justified.

all perverts like this deserve to die, or at least rot in jail.

Cherry, that is probably because the 2 people on here may be child molesters themselves! They probably stick together, Who knows. I know they are not right in the head making excuses for buddy. I dont care a thing about his family! I dont care about him, I know he is guilty thats why he took his own life.

dandlmom i am sure noone cares about your family either.

I am Happy for you Klutz that you are bestfriends with Buddys neice!!!!!!!....I feel sorry for his family they did not make him do what he did... But if you know the family you know his father has been in trouble with the law for makeing phone calls to women... He has been doing it for years and years..so the apple does fall far for the tree... so before you start makeing comments yourself find stuff about the family.....FIRST

I know his mom and she is a very nice person and I know his brother and sister and they are very nice people... so if you do not like the comments then do not read them..

People should not make the comments... I think you all need to step back and put yourselves in their shoes... Yes, I agree that what Buddy did was wrong and I don't want anyone to think that I am saying it is fine for people to have child pornography. It is easy for all of you to sit there and cast stones at someone else's family but if this was your family then you would be upset at the people who were then casting stones. For all you know there could be a person like this in your family that could be keeping it a secret just like Buddy did. He took his life in hopes of not hurting his family but in doing so he has hurt them more than he could imagine.

I feel remorse for this man's family as they have lost a loved one and had their name smeared in the news. But I do not feel sorry for this man at all. Watching a child being defiled is not a "mistake". This man could have done this many times before, and maybe even had physical contact with children. I don't believe in hell but I do think that when you do something like this in life, what comes after death will not be enjoyable.

I'm with you kateindfcity. Watching a child get raped is not a "mistake". This guy even requested that it happen again so that he could watch it! I do feel sorry for his family. But if there were not people like this guy, who likes to watch children get brutalized, there may not be any child porn. Supply and demand.

It's really sad to have to view some of the diatribes here. I didn't know this man personally but I had contact with him as a professional. Its possible he had some issues and made some poor choices that cannot be excused. For many years he devoted his life to enhancing and promoting the lives of those who had no voice in our society. He was an advocate for the mentally retarded and mentally Ill and did it well as an administrator. These people are left wondering what happened and why. Yes he was indeed accused of an awful crime and there's no excuse for that. I have no clue as to what this Man's demons were if any but I know that although he may have had issue's He also had compassion for his fellow human being's. The video he watched I'm sure was sickening but from what I knew of him as a human being leads me to believe he may have been trying to immerse himself in a place were once again he could make a difference as an advocate for those without a voice. Yes he took his own life and that would lead one to conclude that he was guilty. But in this society we live in today if you are accused, you might as well be guilty because of those who are so quick to judge you without knowing the facts. Mr Stevens did not abuse these children. But if he was guilty of promoting this type of atrocity may God judge him accordingly. To the family and friend's of this Man. May you find peace with time. And to those who would post in such haste. Although you are angry and entitled to an opinion there are alot of people who's life were enhanced by this individual prior to this allegation. Please keep them in mind and may God bless you.

My family grew up with this family and they are really nice. I am sorry for their loss as Buddy made a mistake....have people never made mistakes? His loving family does not deserve to go through this. My son is friends with Buddy's nephew and my brothers are friends with his brothers. My sister played basketball with one of his sisters. Please let him rest and leave his family alone.

My prayers are with his family.

Once a molester always a molester.Glad we dont have to feed and clothe his sick ass.

Seriously that guy was a sicko. Being from Bucksport myself, I recognize his face, but cant really say I've come in contact with him. Thank God. I cant believe there are people like this lurking behind their computers trying to do these sort of things. Its really really sad. Having 2 boys myself, If I was that Michigan mother it would be hard for me not to think, eye for an eye. Hope the guy in MI gets what he deserves. As for this "Buddy" he's down under shovelin crap for the rest of his immortal life...or so we hope.

This undoubtedly was the best act of a sorry life. He's stoking the hell fires now, right where he belongs.

I can't help but wonder what kind of case could have been put together against this man in ONE day. They have decades old murders to solve but in one day, Buddy went from a respected professional to. . . I don't think I can use the names some of you have here.

We can never know what was in this man's heart or mind. And he is never going to tell us. He has never been accused of hurting a child. His charges were attempting to acquire child porn over the Internet . There is no mention of any previous record. Forty two years without a brush with the law, and all of sudden he is damned to hell. NOT BY MY GOD!

raysgurl: In todays society, Sex + man = guilty regardless of the offense, or lack of evidence. Even if proven innocent, he is still labeled for life. On the other hand, about 85% of all sexual crimes against Children go unreported, because it happen within the family, and nobody will stand up for that Child.

go figure. Why these are not important Children, l do not know, but the evidence proves they are not.

This guy has had serious issues for awhile.....I believe his father got in trouble once also for sexually harrasing people by telephone....As you can see he might not have had the best of up bringing.

I knew this man quite well and have to say that it was such a shock to learn of the accusations that were made against him. Never in a million years would I have guessed that this could be going on in Buddy’s life.

In saying that I’m not sure why people feel compelled to say such horrific things in regards to this, and especially about his family.

I am sure they are feeling enough grief and loss then to have to possibly get on here and read these remarks. Whether the accusations are true or not – there are still friends and family of this man that are suffering and I would hope that people could conjure up some compassion for them. I find this a disgrace!

"Amanda1982"...Please do not refer to all of us as 'we'....

IE: As for this "Buddy" he's down under shovelin crap for the rest of his immortal life...or so we hope.

I would never wish that on my friend.

As for you ~ there by the Grace of God walk I.....

Remember that ~ life might bite you in the ass.

Wow, how sad to read some of these comments. Some of you people need to learn that sometimes the best response is no response at all! Why post your hatred? Why not keep it inside? I feel disgust for many things, it does not mean it should be splattered all over the internet.

In the end this man was a human being. What he had allegedly done was a horrific thing, but it does not give you people the right to defame a person before the facts were ever put forth to a jury!

I am sorry for his family as well as the poor children who siffered harm. What a tragedy. You will all face your maker someday...I feel for you!