BELFAST, Maine — Lance El-Hajj, 48, walked into Belfast District Court Tuesday morning in shackles, but he left a free man after being found not guilty of domestic violence stalking and two other related charges.

Judge Patricia Worth presided over the bench trial of the two-term member of the SAD 22 school board and stay-at-home dad of four. El-Hajj, who has residences in Winterport and Swanville, had spent more than a month in custody without bail at Two Bridges Regional Jail in Wiscasset after his former girlfriend filed a complaint in October that he had violated the terms of a protection from abuse order she had filed earlier this year. The order stemmed from harassment complaints made by the woman and El-Hajj’s subsequent arraignment on charges of criminal trespass and harassment.

“I would not let it be thought that I take a charge of domestic violence stalking lightly,” Worth said before handing down the verdict. “The state has not proved charges of domestic violence stalking.”

El-Hajj’s criminal trial lasted for much of the day and included testimony from him, his ex-girlfriend — an employee of SAD 22 — and her 14-year-old son. While he will not return to Lincoln County Jail, he still needs to stay out of trouble until the middle of June, according to defense attorney Marvin Glazier of Bangor. That will mark the end of El-Hajj’s 10-month deferred sentence, which he received this summer in exchange for pleading guilty to harassment. If El-Hajj keeps a clean record and stays away from the woman, he can withdraw his guilty plea and have the harassment charge dismissed.

Under the provisions of the agreement, El-Hajj can only have contact with the woman at school in regard to school activities in which his daughters are involved.

On Tuesday, Waldo County Deputy District Attorney Eric Walker argued that El-Hajj had violated the conditions of the agreement. He said El-Hajj had inconvenienced and intimidated his ex-girlfriend by repeatedly driving past her Winterport home, by quizzing her 14-year-old son about her new relationship and by getting too close to her physically at school and sporting events.

“Mr. El-Hajj just would not let go of the relationship,” Walker said. “There is a conduct that would cause a normal person to suffer intimidation or inconvenience. That is exactly what [the woman] suffered.”

The woman told the judge she felt compelled to seek police assistance in October after El-Hajj had made a complaint about her to the school district superintendent and the principal of the school where she works.

“That was when I took all the records I had and called the DA’s office,” the woman said in court.

At times during her testimony she grew emotional, especially when she described how she and El-Hajj had been in a long-term live-in relationship which blended their two families, with a total of six children. She said despite their break-up and the court conditions imposed on El-Hajj, her two children remained close to him.

One of those children took the stand, describing how he had called El-Hajj for a ride one day after school when he missed the bus.

“Did he ever ask you questions about your family?” Walker asked.

The teenage boy said El-Hajj mostly asked questions about where his mother’s new boyfriend’s children were sleeping when they stayed in the house. El-Hajj also asked if a family photograph of the woman’s and El-Hajj’s children posing with chickens on their laps was still on display in the house. The teen said he loved El-Hajj and thought of him as a father.

When El-Hajj took the stand, he said he never once asked the boy about his mother’s new boyfriend, but instead wanted to know how he and his brother were doing.

He said he had made a complaint about the woman to the principal because one of his four daughters told him she witnessed the woman being rough with her son one day.

Although Walker objected to this line of conversation, Worth found it relevant.

“I think he ought to be allowed to explain why he took an action,” she said.

During Walker’s cross-examination of El-Hajj, he asked the man why he had put himself in places where he was likely to see the woman, including cross-country track meets that involved one of his daughters.

“Did you realize you were playing with fire?” Walker asked.

“I didn’t think I was doing anything wrong,” El-Hajj replied.

Ultimately, Worth found that El-Hajj was not guilty of domestic violence stalking, violation of a protection from abuse order and violation of his conditions of release.

“Obviously we are pleased with the result,” Glazier said.

According to Walker, it was a fair verdict.

“Looking back on it, I believe we did not meet our burden of proof. I think it was the right decision. I think it was a reasonable decision,” he said. “There are some cases where you go in and try the case, hope for the best, and it doesn’t go your way.”

After the verdict, El-Hajj had to wait in the courthouse for a jail official to come and let him out of his wrist and leg shackles. He embraced his college-aged daughter and said he was looking forward to seeing his other, younger children, who had been staying with their aunt while he was in jail. Their own mother died more than 10 years ago, he said.

“Forty-one days of my life,” he said of his stint in jail while waiting for the trial.

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  1. Well, he seems happy, that’s good I guess or not maybe.

    So, when they created the names for the school districts in this state, did they consider acronyms such as RSD (Regional School District), CSD (Combined School District), or maybe even ASD Administrative School District?

    SAD was the best they could come up with? That’s almost as funny as the road work signs where they make the poor workers hold a sign that says “slow”.

    Thinking about it, maybe the school board members should each get one of those signs.

    1. Actually, The full name is Maine School Administrative District, MSAD. They are also known by RSU. SAD is nothing new – I went to Mt. Blue High School (Farmington) in the 70’s and it was SAD 9 then.

  2. Way to go Lance! There is so much I want to say but I will just say, go enjoy those girls, continue to be the amazing father we all know you are and enjoy this holiday season.

    Stay clear from this women and her children just to be safe. So sad to hear this little boy considers you a father and now his mother has ruined that relationship.

  3. Big victory for the many men who have suffered horrific consequences because of the lies of vengeful and crazy women.

    1. You obviously have no idea what you are talking about if you think SHE is the crazy one! Get your facts straight! He has stalked her, manipulated her, terrorized her all because he can’t take no for an answer. And yes, those are facts!

      1. where were you during the trial?do you have proof?if not then don’t say such things,if you do then shame on you for not bringing it up when trial started.

    2. I’ve seen a fair share of crazy people making things up, men and women but I had the misfortune of having my family dragged into this mess when Lance decided he wanted to create a new account and portray himself as my wife. Despite that fact that it was a slimy thing to do to begin with, he mined for information and then even talked himself up as though he were some sort of pillar of the community. Here are some quotes from the email that he wrote to the victim… posing as her friend…ABOUT HIMSELF

      ” I think you two are a good couple and he is easy on the eyes.”
      “and from what I’ve heard he is very well respected in the community. Don’t push him away.”

      All the victim wanted to do was leave him. He wasn’t having it and this is one example of the games he played.

      Hey Lance, next time you pull this BS, leave my family out of it or I’ll make it my mission to make sure the next charges stick. As you know, this isn’t my first rodeo.

      1. You should have gotten involved this time when you saw the case was still active. Had your information been known, perhaps this would have had a more truthful verdict.

  4. I give him a month before he is driving by her house to see what she’s up to, and back in trouble with the law.
    Lets just hope he doesn’t do something really stupid.

  5. Again another disappointment from the legal system. I happen to know Lance and the women involved both quite well and out of decency for his children I will not go into details of what a lunatic he really is. So much of what he has done was not even in the articles. She tolerated a lot just to keep all the children from heartache. She is a wonderful mom and person. He wont stop, he never has. Lets just hope he thinks about his kids the next time he does something stupid. And there will be a next time.

    1. again where were you during this trial?if what you say is true then shame on you for not coming forward with your info.

  6. To Mr. Ell-Hajj’s daughter who posted on the last BDN article. Remember
    as I said then… theirs not much at your Dad’s and my age we can’t see
    straight through, keep your family close and keep faith. There are good people out here. Merry Christmas and A Happy New Year

  7. When the Da says it was a fair verdict and they did not meet the burden of prof . It really makes you wonder . Guilty to proven innocent. I do not understand why the case was not tossed out before he he knew he did not meet “the burden of prof”.Much easier for an innocent man to take a plea bargan then spent a long time in jail for nonsense. I am not saying this man did nothing wrong . But I do this the woman or DA may have used the system.

  8. Another sad case of someone with an expensive lawyer getting off when he
    should have been sent to jail. Don’t tell me he is an innocent man on
    this case……I have been sitting with this woman when when he
    constantly sent her unwanted emails and phone calls REPEATEDLY. I have
    seen her fear and it is not made up. I hope he has learned his lesson
    on this, but based on his history I expect that is not the case. Be a
    man, Lance, and move on. Leave her alone and stop the harassment.

  9. If he was guilty of abuse, I would think her children wouldn’t say that they loved him and stood by him. He isn’t their father so they would have no obligation to say what they said. I don’t know either one of these people but, I do know enough crazy women that love attention and they don’t care how they get it – even if it means destroying someone else’s life and reputation in the process. I’m not saying that is the case here, but I do know it happens often in my neck of the woods.

  10. Yesterday was one of the most exciting days of my life. Not seeing my father for 41 days, and then being able to hug him was the most amazing feeling. People can comment on this article all they want, and say all the BS they want. He was proven NOT GUILTY by a judge for a reason. There was enough evidence to prove that this case has been all lies, just for attention. Nobody knows everything that went on in this relationship and everything that went on for years, but I do. Obviously if you believe my father should not have been proven innocent, perhaps you should take that up with the judge. I have known this man for my entire life, and known this women for 6 years of my life. There are always going to be bad things that happen in relationships, and things that get taken to the extreme when there is no need to. To say the least, my dad, being a single father of 4 daughters for the past 11 years, has done the most amazing job raising us and my mother would be proud to see who her daughters have become today. Love you Daddy.

    1. And what woman can you thank for raising you many of those years after your mom passed away? Did you forget that???

    2. Your mom would be very proud of you girls and all of the love, caring, morals, etc, your Dad has instilled in you girls. Hugs and love to the El-Hajj family.

  11. No one can predict the outcome when a person is obsessed with another person. I am sure that in every domestic violence case where a woman and / or her kids end up dead, there are people out there who think he was a “great” guy from
    a great family. The person doing the stalking or the intimidating doesn’t admit
    to anyone that he is engaging in that kind of behavoir. These people are
    manipulative and often portray themselves as pillars of the community. As
    family members of the victim, we have been aware of many incidents and
    behavoirs from this individual that are scarry and concerning. Many of them did
    not come out in the trial because they were not related to violation of the
    protection order and happened before the protection order. It’s a terrible way to
    live when you are afraid of someone who refuses to let a relationship go. For
    those of you who think that this is a victory and have very disparaging things
    to say about the victim in this case, I hope he doesn’t prove you wrong.
    You only need to look at the news to know that domestic violence and stalking in this state is a huge problem.
    Out of respect for all the children involved, people should refrain from calling either
    one of these individual “crazy” and other hateful names and focus more on supporting them.

    1. You make this a personal thing for youself, and when you do that you always presume guilty. Time to give it up and live. Try to be happy. Most of the time the woman starts the trouble, There are a few times but very few men start it.. I can always tell by looking at the person who is at fault.. Attractive woman leave their husband for more money, woman who have had children and let themselves go are angry and start trouble because their husband/boyfriends leave them for better looking woman.. and the men get all them blame.. Men need to make a stand and take all the cases to trial.

  12. Another sad case of someone with an expensive lawyer getting off when he
    should have been sent to jail. Don’t tell me he is an innocent man on
    this case……I have been sitting with this woman when when he
    constantly sent her unwanted emails and phone calls REPEATEDLY. I have
    seen her fear and it is not made up. I hope he has learned his lesson
    on this, but based on his history I expect that is not the case. Be a
    man, Lance, and move on. Leave her alone and stop the harassment.

  13. I am really tired of reading about Lance being a single dad. I am a single mom, also from tragic circumstances, but I bet my single mom status wouldn’t get mentioned so much if I was in this dad’s shoes….but wait..it is dad and daughter that keeps emphasizing it! Sympathy tactic?

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