BANGOR, Maine — A Bangor man was arrested Saturday after police say he pushed his girlfriend at the Pine Street apartment they share.
Jeffrey Mayhew, 27, was charged with domestic violence assault, according to Bangor police Sgt. Paul Edwards.
Edwards said the couple got into a heated argument, Mayhew pushed the woman, and she subsequently contacted police.
He was taken to Penobscot County Jail and later released on bail. Mayhew faces up to a year in prison if convicted of the Class D domestic violence charge.
Mayhew has a prior charge of possession of methadone and Xanax on his record, according to Bangor Daily News archives.
Proud of you, tough guy.
So when I push my child on a swing i could do a year in jail? She will be right back with him most likely. Please go after real abuse with the fullest extent of the law. But a year for a push is a bit much when its only her word about it.
are you kidding me? ALL ABUSE is REAL ABUSE and ALL ABUSE period should be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law. and unless your familiar with the case, you don’t know what evidence they have against him.
I do agree abuse should be prosecuted. I just Know if this was abuse sometimes a story is made up to tell the police . The man will have no defense in those cases. If she sole his money she would not be charged . If she made up the story and admitted she lied she would not be charged . Tossing a guy in jail for a year when she was not hurt is a bit much. When most likely she will be right back with him. If a Man pushes a woman she is not hurt she should move the heck out. We do not know the details because she said he pushed her dose not mean he did.
That’s the most rediculous(sp?) Outlook and opinion I’ve heard but your entitled to it.
I am sorry my brain processes information much different than yours. From my point of view I would rather let 100 guilty people go than to put one innocent person in jail. INTP I know for a fact that more than 1% of the time someone is convicted of domestic violence they are innocent maybe as much a 5% . It is a whole lot easier to take a plea bargin a fine than to fight and risk A year in jail. I guess I would never be picked for jury duty they would have a hung jury most the time except in cases with real proof. I would be like is the defendant lying or the police lying not having a bias for one over the other if its just comes down to words being spoken.
Unfortunately, it can be a ‘push back’ sometimes. Nobody here can tell from the story just how this went down.
The paper does not give enough detail so we can only guess at what might have happened .
Yup! And I really don’t want to read/know the soap opera details anyway…..
I will tell you right now not all people being arrested for abuse abused anyone sometimes they were the ones being abused . I remember the time the ex hit me over the head with the phone . I refuse to tell the police what happend then she was afraid she would get arrested and told the police I hit her. She Got mad at me because I refused to drive her to her boyfriends house lol. I told her to walk . Police do not always know who is telling the truth. the DA. dose not even care who is telling the truth they just want the high conviction numbers. Women hit men more often then men hit women . That being said men are more likely to kill or injure a woman . Call you better have a ho when you find out she has a boyfriend on the side and she if she dose not slap you . All abuse should be prosecuted but it is not in the real world and it is biased against men.
Just curious why you didn’t report it? If there’s so much ‘hey! men get abused, too!!!!’ then why don’t they press charges? Obviously not a very nice person to ask you for a ride to her boyfriend’s house and then hit you. If you were hit in the head with a phone, I’d think you’d have proof for the cops. Don’t assume all of them are biased to woman. They know there are plenty of psycho women, as well as men, in this world!
Very long story having a child we were (are)raising . Me not being the biological father so It would have been a hard battle to fight for custody. I did not want to see the child in DHHS care. Now was a long time ago . Our child lives with me half the time he is now in his early teens . She got married 7 years ago but the child is and has always been closer to me than her. Sometime people who think I am a bit abrasive till they get to know me. Learned a lesson in life never rescue a damsel in distress .
Well let it also be a lesson (by a man’s perspective) that it isn’t always easy for someone to get out of a relationship- sometimes for the sake of a child. It’s nice to see you wanted to stay with a child you raised, but what a hard decision that can be.
Well so far he is a good kid a teen now . His mother has her issues I do my best to be a good father. I try never to speak negatively about his mother. “I Kinda laugh to myself when he says you do not know what it is like to live with that woman” . Then go on to explain his mother loves his just has her problems. He has no real relationship with his stepfather . I will always be his dad.
your absurdity is abusing my mental state at this moment.. There are only 2 reasons why you could hate men so much.. neither favor you.
Why was she in his face, to provoke the push I presume??
Maybe he needs to learn a little self-control and not be so weak so that he ‘snaps’.
Nice to hear from you again with your often common sense comments, but we don’t know what happened in this particular case. A ‘push’ doesn’t necessarily constitute ‘snapping’ or weakness. But then you know that.
That’s why I put ‘snap’ in parentheses :)
Hate men?? Where did I say that? Lol no. I am a man. I’m talking about abuse
There are laws in Maine that makes it a crime to look at women… Just proves that women are weak and helpless almost hopeless. I guess that is why they buy makeup, to attract a nice stong male to provide for them.. this proves they they are less then the equal of a man…
I hope you are kidding. If not, I am sorry for those women who come into your life David.
No, the guys who condone this behavior probably push their own women around. No one is disputing that there is female to male domestic violence, but to say that more women hit men than vice versa is laughable! Check out any goverment statistic, boys. 85% of intimate partner violence victims are women.
Maybe 85% of arrest or reported but if we are looking at the real world what really happens and a push or slap is abuse . Woman hit men more. Lets not get emotional about the guy who put the woman in the hospital abuse is abuse. The system is biased and most men will not call the police when thier wife slaps them. RN if you are an RN most case in the ER are probably women beaten by a man . This case we are talking about a push. The woman was not beaten up as far as we know.
Well I guess just as women fought through the women’s lib movement, maybe all these guys need to speak up and report all these cases of abuse from their women. Statistics are statistics, the numbers are taken from somewhere, which, so far, have shown men are the majority of perpetrators. SOOOOO, if men want to prove how much many more of them are being abused on a daily basis, they need to speak up. But I have a sneaking suspicion we will never see the numbers you are predicting. No, a full blown assault is way different from a ‘push’ but we have to take it in the context in which it happened. Any hands-on done out of anger is abuse, plain and simple. I have a friend who was ‘pushed’ over a couch-while holding her 2 month old in her arms. Nope, she wasn’t beaten up, but you’re darn right that was abuse!
I did not take statistics I feel the PROVE nothing. But would you agree that a kid who goes skying is more likely to go to college? So would taking a kids Skiing in itself make them more likely to attend or is it middle class kids ski more on average than kids from lower class families? More cancer cases in a small town with a nuclear power plant proves nothing the stars in the heaves are not spread evenly . If you drop a 100 pennies on the floor they will not spread evenly or the same each time. But what do I Know I am not educated.
There’s a HUGE difference between correlational studies (looking at ‘if x happens, how probably is it that y will happen’) and downright black and white facts. There’s no interpretation of ‘100 women and 5 men filed domestic abuse charges in the town of ______ in the year ____’ Totally different!
The Family court system is a joke.. and needs to go..
In Family court men don’t have the right to a fair trail. and another thing 99% of the time men could counter charge and don’t.. My advise to men is file the charges or you will end up in anger management classes at great expence, where they will tell you that you have anger issues..I have a friend who went through it.. File the counter charges. If she grabs your arm it domestic assult. Charge her.
Oh really? I can see what you think of woman. Does it make you feel like a real man David knowing you can push a woman around? Any man that hits a woman is a coward and weak. Makes the man feel real important when he can hit a woman 1/2 his size. Go work on your own anger issues.
Actually , you are expressing the beliefs of controlling men who are apt to be abusers.
And when some guy hits a female member of YOUR family youre going to what…….say that it is all good……or get really ticked off that someone hit her other than you . you are QUITE a piece of work
I hate to say this but I live near Pine and that whole Essex St. & Pine St. area is pretty shady if you ask me. Drugs Drugs Drugs and more Drugs. Ohio St. is starting to seem tame by comparison given the ton of news reports on Essex & Garland area over the last solid year. I wouldn’t buy property on Essex St. area if they were giving it away at rock bottom prices, because that’s what that place is… rock bottom. Have you ever walked down Pine St. late at night. ha ha It’s like that song “The freaks come out at night”… and day.
If you are told enough times that you have a green face you start to believe it. It is all over the news about ‘abuse’. I will tell you what it is to be abused.
Has your partner ever taken you to a wooded area and had you dig your grave so you would know where you would end up…
Have you ever had your head split open and knocked out because you put a loaf of bread in the freezer wrong…..
Has your partner ever made you sit in a room and watch while he/she was having sex with someone else….
Has your partner ever held a gun to your head while you held another one and was told to hit a tree the size of a piece of spaghetti and if you did not hit the target he/she would pull the trigger on their gun….
Have you ever been sold out to your partners friends for money that you were told would be yours and didn’t get…
Have you ever been punched so hard that the force pushed you into a refrigerator and the refrigerator broke the sheet rock behind it because you spent a few hours with a friend….
Has your partner ever strangled you unconcious because you got your ears pierced…..
Have you ever begged for your life while your partner laughs at you….
Have you ever been so afraid for your life that you loose control of your bodily functions…
Have you ever been denied the basic human function of helping a friend in need only to have them lay a shot gun on their nose and pull the trigger in front of you and than live with the fact that maybe just maybe if you could have gotten their sooner he might still be alive..
Have you ever had to kill a young animal with big brown eyes and white spots by cutting its throat because if you didn’t than it would be done to you…
I have…..
When you use the word abuse, mean it.
I hope you are no longer in that relationship, & wish you the best.
Your story is sad and very true. I hope you are safe and have gotten help for what must have been a horrible blow to the self esteem. Good luck to you.
I hope you’re getting the help and support you need to recover! There are helplines and help centers to assist you. http://www.MCEDV.org to find the one closest to you.
And a “push” gets the same 1 year sentence??
What’s your point? What she mentioned probably all started with a push.
Wow, your post gave me chills. I hope you are in a safe place now.
another tough guy here… hurry let him out so he can go see her
wow…………..people can really destroy someone else’s life……………..
This article leaves one wondering.I am all for strict enforcement of DMV laws, & all for stricter sentences. But this is only a “push”. There must be more to the story.When called to a potential domestic case, the police are trained to assess the whole situation & take it from there. They question both people separately, they look for marks etc. then decide who to arrest. By the way, those of you who say that women hit more than men, statistics show otherwise, & secondly, I feel you must be talking about your own experiences- perhaps you need to look at why you are attracted to abusive women- & yes, women can be abusive too. Just as women need to get away & stay away from men who are abusive- well, the same holds true for you men out there. None of us need or deserve to be mistreated like that. And for both sexes- if you find you are attracted over & over to an abusive prsonality, you need to study why that is so & perhaps help yourself to avoid further hurt.