PORTLAND, Maine — The parents of a snowboarder who attended Carrabassett Valley Academy have filed a $1.35 million lawsuit in U.S. District Court alleging that the school could have prevented a sexual assault on their 16-year-old daughter by a coach.
The names of the parents and the girl, who do not live in Maine, have been redacted from the complaint. They are referred to as “John and Jane Doe” and the girl is called “JD.”
The lawsuit, filed last month by attorney D. Michael Noonan of Dover, N.H., claims that the school was negligent when it allowed Dylan Darienzzo, whose current age and town of residence are not included in the complaint, to continue coaching after it learned he had had a sexual relationship with a female student before his assault on JD.
Efforts to reach Noonan last week and Tuesday were unsuccessful.
The head of Carrabassett Valley Academy denied that the school had been negligent.
“Carrabassett Valley Academy takes the safety and security of its students seriously and has policies against the type of behavior described in the lawsuit,” Kate Webber Punderson, head of school, said Tuesday in a statement emailed to the Bangor Daily News in response to a request for a comment on the lawsuit. “Both the coach and the student should have understood that what occurred between them was wrong and a violation of CVA’s policies.”
The complaint alleges that while JD was competing at “nationals” between March 31 and April 8, 2011, at Copper Mountain in Summit County, Colo., Darienzzo, then 19, had sex with the 16-year-old girl.
He was charged last year in Summit County, Colorado, with sexual assault on a child by one in a position of trust, which is a felony in that state, according to the Summit County district attorney’s office in Breckenridge, Colo. On May 29, Darienzzo pleaded guilty to third-degree assault, a misdemeanor.
He was sentenced to two years of probation in what is called a deferred disposition. If Darienzzo does not violate his probation, the charge will be dismissed on May 29, 2014.
Punderson also said that when the school learned of the incident, it “terminated its relationship with the coach, notified the student’s parents and notified the appropriate authorities.” She also said that Darienzzo was not the girl’s coach.
“The teenage coach had been employed to coach participants in the Sugarloaf/Carrabassett Valley Academy (SCVA) program and was not a coach hired to coach CVA students,” Punderson said in the email. “The SCVA program is a junior ski and snowboard seasonal instructional program run on weekends by CVA in conjunction with Sugarloaf. The student who has filed the lawsuit was a CVA student and not a SCVA student. The coach was not the CVA student’s coach.”
The lawsuit agreed that Darienzzo was an SCVA coach but claimed that his salary and expenses for coaching at nationals were paid for by the academy and he was supervised by CVA personnel.
The complaint also said that officials, coaches and instructors involved in both programs knew that Darienzzo had “conducted an intimate affair with another student at CVA” but the “SCVA kept him on as a coach, rejecting efforts by coaches to dismiss him from the program as a danger to students.”
Punderson said she could not comment further on the pending litigation.
The parents claim their daughter has suffered “grievous injuries and damages” that have affected her mental and emotional health, caused economic loss and future economic loss.
“Many of the injuries and damages are likely to be permanent,” the complaint said.
The kids that go to that school are like a who’s who in Maine… Private school on public funding.
Carrabassett Valley Academy cost over 43,000 per year to attend and they get State funding. I hardly doubt they are hurting. They can afford to pay for their negligence.
Jealousy is a terrible trait
Jealousy is the wrong word. If I were Jealous I would be siding with the school. You got it backwards.
The bottom dwelling lawyers always go to the deepest pockets.
u funnnnnnnnnnnny !
Well, when you have bottom dweller coaches from Carrabassett Valley Academy having inappropriate sex with 16 year old students you don’t have a choice.
So, why don’t they sue him personally instead of making everybody else pay for it?
Just another money grab for the lawyers, the girl, and her family.
He already pleaded guilty. The school put him in that situation and kept him in that situation despite knowing what occurred. They are personally liable, and should be. Carrabassett Valley Academy has to follow the laws just like everybody else. Penn State lost their NCAA standing. Was is the school’s fault. Heck yea! a lot of people from Penn State knew what was going on they were employees of Penn State. A coach is a representative of the establishment they represent.
Bahahahaha
It was consensual, they were around the same age, it’s ridiculous to claim that the young lady is scarred for life to the tune of >$1million
HUH??? A 16 year old is incapable of “consensual” sex. The physical body may be capable, but the mind has not developed to the point where decisions like this can be made. At what age, mnh4, would YOU say that consensual sex should be legal? Perpetrators have used that defense on extremely young children–6 years of age and older. Your line of thinking is that it’s OK as long as it’s consensual, regardless of the age. A coach is absolutely in a position of trust and should beheld accountable. The fact that this one was 19 has no bearing on the situation. Look how many people put themselves into this situation, coaches, teachers, ministers, etc. so they have a golden opportunity to carry out their sick desires. Remember, Sandusky was a coach, too. Was that “consensual”?
Oh please, having once been a 16 year old girl I can tell you with complete confidence she knew Exactly what she was doing, the parents found out and got Pissed off and sued someone for “damaging their baby girl” she is probably mortified they are even doing this….
In Maine the age of consent for sexual relationships is 16, UNLESS the other party is in a position of authority, such as a teacher, counseller, etc–in that case the younger party has to be 18
He wasn’t her coach or in any position of authority in this case.
So Joy if you are 16 and in high school and you go on a school trip and their are five teachers there. You have sex with the History teacher. However you are not taking History, you are taking other subjects , is it illegal? Here is another question if your in the forest and a tree falls does it make a sound? What if your not there, does it make a sound?
They event happened in Colorado.
You can’t compare the mindset of a 16 year old to the mindset of a 6 year old! That’s comparing apples to cars!! The Sandusky case is clearly a different subject altogether – there was no sick desire in this case, just two teenagers that hooked up.
The parents found out that their innocent daughter had sex and that outraged them so, they decided to sue. This will never hold up in court (if it even makes it that far). He was 19 and she is 16, not that significant of an age difference.
Since it was in Colorado, it was a crime. He pleaded guilty and was sentenced. That will be a MAJOR factor in a law suit. If he were 49 and she was 46, the three years is not a factor, but at 19 and 16 it is.
I understand that the law for consentual sex with a minor is different in Colorado but, don’t you think that the lawsuit is a bit much? Who is going to get the money – the parents and not the girl. I find this suit to be outlandish.
It’s quite unlikely that the full amount will be awarded. The girl would not likely get the money now, probably some kind of trust. The purpose is punitive–the school’s insurance carrier would pay, so a settlement is very likely. It will be interesting to see how this all flies because a lot of other cases will be affected by it.
It did hold up and he had to plead guilty. Case is closed. So I’m not sure where you are getting your facts from?
15 year old black kids get charged as adults, for murder.
Yet, you are saying that a 16 year old girl is not mature enough to understand sex?
If a 16 year old, male or female, doesn’t understand sex, that is a failure on the parents part, for not teaching them.
No, snakebite, I DIDN’T say that. I’m not sure why you tried to put words in my mouth. Don’t twist things around. Please re-read my comment. OF COURSE a 16 year old girl understands sex–she just doesn’t understand the long term ramifications of it. Why is this so hard to understand?
This case is no longer about the sex thing. Get a clue!!! It’s about Carrabassett Valley Academy’s negligence.
Just a WILD guess… the parent(s) are lawyers?
If it was consensual and the ages are as close as alluded to here, this exemplifies the issue with the “sexual offender” label and listing in the state of Maine.
Here is another WILD guess. In that part of Maine things like that go on a lot and nobody talks about it. They protect the local people from getting in trouble. Just a hunch!
Perhaps her parents should have taught her to keep her legs closed, if they couldn’t handle a very common result of raging hormones amongst teenagers
when it comes to parenting, these lawsuit slinging degenerates represent the lowest of the low
Perhaps his parents should have taught him when to keep it his pants and when to whip it out. So to your point, his parents must be those degenerates that represent the lowest of the low.
You’re right, degenerate males are the only ones who have sex.
No, the degenerates exist at Carrabassett Valley Academy. They hired him knowing he was dating a student. They didn’t fire him when he broke the law. They fired another coach who tried to do the right thing and report him. I would say that constitutes degenerates. CVA brought this upon themselves. That 19 year old Darienzzo should have never been put in this situation.
Sounds like JD got caught doing something she shouldn’t have been doing.
16 is the age of consent in Maine and here is the Colorado law:
18-3-402(1) Any actor who knowingly inflicts sexual intrusion or sexual penetration on a victim commits sexual assault if:
(d) At the time of the commission of the act, the victim is less than
fifteen years of age and the actor is at least four years older than the
victim and is not the spouse of the victim; or (e) At the time of the
commission of the act, the victim is at least fifteen years of age but less than seventeen years of age and the actor is at least ten years older than the victim and is not the spouse of the victim;
Mr. Noonan should counter-sue for defamation.
I hope the family wins this case. This coach was in a position of authority. He totally took advantage of this girl. Look at the facts he had to plead guilty. Sounds to me that Darrienzzo is the one that got caught doing something he shouldn’t have been doing!!!!
the kid was 19.. it’s like a freshman/sophmore hooking up with a senior for the prom! holy crap people.. yes he was an instructor.. but bottom line how is the school responsible for it? just because the kid is 19 and does’nt have a loaded bank account?
How do you know what is in his bank account? If he attended the school he had to be able to afford 40,000 per year. They could be a family whose kids have gotten away with illegal activity all their lives and now it’s catching up with him. Karma is a #@&%$. He broke the law!
“18-3-402(1) Any actor who knowingly inflicts sexual intrusion or sexual penetration on a victim commits sexual assault if:
(d) At the time of the commission of the act, the victim is less than
fifteen years of age and the actor is at least four years older than the
victim and is not the spouse of the victim; or (e) At the time of the
commission of the act, the victim is at least fifteen years of age but less than seventeen years of age and the actor is at least ten years older than the victim and is not the spouse of the victim;” -quoted from above-
Now…which law did he break?
That was for the judge to decide and guess what he already pleaded guilty. They obviously had enough on him that his lawyer had him plead guilty. This case is not whether he is guilty or not. We already know he is guilty HE SAID SO HIMSELF! This case is about whether CVA is negligent.
he wasn’t even her coach
So, if you get raped by the History teacher and your taking English does that make it ok? Please help me to understand your reasoning on that one? He was one of the coaches on the trip. He was a coach and an authoritative figure on that trip. In other words she was taking English and he was the History teacher. Please help us all to understand?
HaHaHa!!!
Who said anything about rape?
Uh, Perpetual—it WAS rape! It’s called Statutory Rape. That’s why he’s in trouble.
It never said anything anywhere about it being rape.. The law says a 16/19 consensual sexual encounter is legal – therefore, it is not rape.
Then WHY was he arrested? In states where it is illegal at her age, then it is a crime–statutory rape. It doesn’t matter what state he lives in, it’s where the crime occurred. That’s why he was charged. Apparently Colorado has more sense than Maine on this issue.
Just because you are arrested and charged does not mean you are guilty and convicted.
Uh, apparently you didn’t actually read the story….he pleaded guilty–case closed. This story is about a CIVIL suit, not criminal. He admitted to his crime–that is over.
He admitted to third degree assault, which is a misdemeanor and the least serious assault charge in Colorado. He was given probation and the charges will be dismissed in May 2014 if he stays out of trouble.
I think he was already given his sentencing.
He was arrested because cops make arrests and let the courts prosecute with the assumption of guilt and the defendant tries to prove their innocence. This is ‘Murica! and everyone who believes otherwise is a turr’ist!
Cops love to use the Nuremburg defence for their actions.
The act of shoving a human through one of your orifices does not make you an expert in everything.
The only time a man is a genius is when he is plugged into a woman. However, in this case he obviously had a short circuit. And let me call it first, by no fault of hers. He was obviously not taught right from wrong. Or the school did not make it clear what is appropriate behavior for a coach. Carrabassett Valley Academy is not exactly filled with teachers and coaches with high morals. Monkey see monkey do.
Thank you for shedding light on the laws in question here. Some folks commenting (who shall remain nameless) needed to read that.
I hope the family wins this case. This coach was in a position of authority. He totally took advantage of this girl. Carrabassett Valley Academy should have fired him.
please, say that again (again)
“He totally took advantage of this girl.”
How do you know?
When your in a position of authority you are put in a domineering role. Teacher/ student, coach/athlete, doctor/patient, employer/employee. Just by the definition of Darienzzo being a coach he took advantage of his position and situation.
That’s probably complete nonsense in this case. I bet she was looking at the guy as another teenager, some guy to hook up with, not as an authority figure taking advantage of her.
Let me guess, sugarmom … you’re the girl’s mom, right?
more than likely, she has shown enough evidence that she is in fact the worst woman
no, I live in the area and had my son and daughter in the school for a short while. We found a lot of the things that went on there very distasteful. I particularly don’t agree with the faculty and how some students are treated. I’m grateful that I’m not her mother. She must have gone through hell.
Another coach story. And the school looks the other way. I would go for 2 million .
I bet you would.
A 19 year old guy coaching teenage girls who live away from home and frequently travel around the country? Sounds negligent on the part of the school AND the parents for sending their daughter into such a situation…
You make a good point. Let’s hope this case gets out and people will find out what Carrabassett Valley Academy is really all about. If it stops another kid from getting hurt it was all worth it.
It says he was not her coach in the article.
rediculous.. money seeking… those are all I see here… not to mention drag someones name through the mud…
at 19 a 16 yr old is “legal” in this state.. If I remember right the age difference is 4 years +/-.. the older/ one of authority being at fault. Sorry but you’re gonna have to live with your life choices…
A 16 year old and a 19 year old don’t know any better. Shouldn’t the 40- 50 year olds working at the school have known better?
The law says they are capable of knowing better.
What exactly is your point
Apparently you didn’t read my comment thoroughly–here’s the quote: “…the point is that a 16 year old person (male or female) has not
developed mentally to see how those decisions can affect the rest of
their lives.”
The point is, as PerpetualNotion has pointed out, that this is a LEGAL question, not a practical one. Unless the person involved has been legally declared to be mentally incompetent, once they achieve the age of 16 (in Maine) they HAVE developed mentally to a sufficient extent to make those decisions. It makes no difference at all whether this is true for a particular individual in a practical or fundamental sense. It’s the LAW.
According to Maine law, 16 is the age of consent. Therefore, she (legally) HAS developed mentally to the point where she is capable of understanding the consequences.
The incident occurred in Colorado. The age of consent is 17. However you might want to read freddiestevens comment. He makes a good point about maturity levels. This case is about whether the school is held responsible. He pleaded guilty he was given his sentence already.
Good point, it is about time we unified an age of consent, adulthood, and everything else. The Pope says 12 is old enough to make decisions about having sex, since the age of consent in the Holy See is 12. I’m thinking it should be older say 16-18 range, but who am I to argue with the man who has the hotline to God. Maturity is not something that a prosecutor or defense attorney can definitively prove. Age is, the law isn’t perfect, but lets finally do the right thing and say, “In our society you are a consenting adult when you are…” and be done with it.
this is going well, isn’t it now
Not only do I like this comment. You make a lot of sense. The mind is not mature to make a decision like that. Now the question is should Carrabassett Valley Academy be held responsible? Keep in mind they knew the 19 year old was dating another student at the time of hire. They were also made aware that this incident occurred and people who came forward were fired? They also kept him on the payroll after the incident occurred? What are your thoughts?
When it comes to lust, which must serve a biological function, when does the human mind become mature enough only make decisions based on “how those decisions can affect the rest of their lives”, exactly, in your opinion, Mom ?
My guess is menopause.
So in general terms, when did people who would SAY of course we are Nation of laws, and I accept both the concept and up holding the laws, decide that their rationalization, moralization and opinions should both supersede some points of law and be respected as some people stamp their Mary-Janes about how a point of law should be of no concern because it is not fair, IMO ?
If someones point is that the age of consent is too low, just say that, and we can discuss the facts of it.
As it is, the false logic that everyone’s beliefs and opinions MUST BE respected equally suggests not understanding the very concept of what respect, itself, actually IS.
What I am raging against is the acceptance of passive aggressive emotional blackmail as a common
rhetorical approach in public discourse.
In all fairness to Sugarmom, she is the not worse offender, by far.
In fact she makes a fine example because while impossible discuss a an idea without an example,
she goes on and does says several reasonable things.
So my hope is that she, and others, might see I’m asking when did the flawed, lowest common denominator, no compromising of my vague beliefs approach become the most popular opening gambit to discussing all issues become so commonly acceptable ?.
The end result is a dysfunctional discussion of personal values instead of working towards the resolution of any issues by respecting the facts surround it.
Or deadlock.
This is blog. We all have our own opinions. That is the point of this discussion, to hear other peoples opinions. So while my menopausal ways might cause me to rant. Your lack of testosterone keeps you from saying anything at all. This is not our case to resolve unless you are a judge? Which I ask for your pardon if that is the case. However my hunch is that your not. The facts are as such, a 19 year old coach took advantage of a 16 year old student. The school was negligent in hiring this coach and the school was negligent in not firing this coach. Take some testosterone and give us your opinion. If not step aside, because you might refer to it as menopause I call them power surges!
“The parents claim their daughter has suffered “grievous injuries and damages” that have affected her mental and emotional health, caused economic loss and future economic loss.”
16 and 19?
Get serious.
There are men reading this who, when they were fumbling at 19, had to be given a road map by an experienced partner three or four years younger.
The humble Farmer
One thing about a boys first time.
The girl doesn’t need to be experienced or good at it.
She just has to be there!
The Fumble Harmer
Like a wife?
Regardless of your opinion, legal matters such as this one, must be judged based on the law. So your point is moot. This isn’t a matter of right and wrong (If the world worked that way, who knows where we’d be.) This is a matter of legal and illegal.
sorry Freddie if I don’t agree with you, but you know Nothing about me or my decisions in life….
Unless it was a forcible rape, I’d guess the only “grievous injuries and damages” the girl has suffered and will suffer will be the embarrasment she experiences because her parents have commenced this lawsuit. Just wait until defense counsel begin discovery of her medical and psychological/psychiatric and school records and take her deposition. Then, of course, there will be the trial itself where she’ll have to testify, and be cross examined, in front of a jury and convince them how much she has been damaged.
I don’t think this case is about whether he raped her or not. He already pleaded guilty to that offense. This case is about whether Carrabassett Valley Academy was negligent. They hired him knowing he was dating another student. A few coaches where fired cause they tried to bring it to the attention of the headmaster. This case is no longer Darienzzo it’s about CVA.
Get your facts straight. He didn’t plead guilty to rape. He pleaded guilty to third degree assault.
I understand perfectly well that the school is the defendant and that Darienzzo isn’t. But that doesn’t mean that the plaintiffs don’t have the burden of proving that CVA was negligent, that it’s negligence was the proximate cause of an injury to the girl, and that the girl suffered actual damages as a result.
All we know is what’s been reported here. So what you and I say about the facts are not much more than guesses. And I’m guessing that the girl isn’t the one who’s pressing this matter and that she just wishes it would go away. It’s her parents, and all they’re doing is embarrasing their daughter, who has suffered no actual harm. If that’s the case, the jury will quickly understand that and if they return a verdict for the plaintiffs, it will just be a nominal amount. That’s assuming, of course -and it’s a big assumption that I’m willing to give you for the sake of argument only – that the plaintiffs can sustain their burden on negligence and causation. I suspect this is a case where two horny teenagers hooked up. Of course, I could be wrong. If it was a forcible rape, all bets are off and CVA and its insurance carrier better settle – fast.
If the parents win anything in this case I would love the irony of the judge putting it in trust for the child’s exclusive use.
Maybe the parents are to blame. They did put her in the position to be sleeping away from home and to be around many teenage boys unsupervised! Coaches can only monitor so much, they’re not going to watch over every kid 24/7.
I think 16 yr old girls probably have a better head on their shoulders than 19 yr old boys. I had one thing on my mind and it wasn’t snowboarding or skiing! I hope these parents come to their senses and drop this ridiculous charge and let both their daughter and the 19 yr old boy get on with their lives.
He’s already pleaded guilty–end of chapter.
I guess you’re right he has plead…too bad for all involved. Hopefully, no one gets rich/more rich from this lawsuit
If she had sex with another student you might be able to use that argument. But it was with a coach. That is the difference. It was the very person who was suppose to monitor the situations that took advantage of the situation.
you REALLY consider a 19 yr old kid a coach? He’s only a couple yrs older than this girl and more than likely closer in age to some of the other girls.
Would you send your 16 yr old daughter away with a 19 yr old boy? I dont care if he’s a coach or the pastors son…NO WAY!!!
As a parent would you think that a school that costs over 40,000 a year would hire a coach that is only 19 years of age and have him go away with your daughter is the question you should be asking Carrabassett Valley Academy. They are completely negligent. I have to agree with you. These parents spent a lot of money to put their daughter in a safe environment. Carrabassett Valley Academy took advantage of these people and hired a 19 year old coach whose mother works for the school. CVA needs to pay for their mistake and negligence.
You people defending Darienzzo make me sick. Someone should hold the school accountable for allowing a person known to initate relationships with students to hold a position of leadership. I dont care what program he was officially with. If the groups travelled together and were lodged together then there may not have been any real distinction. What if Darienzzo was 24? Would that make a difference? Assuming the sex was consensual (which is never stated in the article just implied), it was legal in both ME and CO whether he was 19 or 24. The family’s law suit has no leg to stand on IMO, but that doesnt excuse Darienzzo from being a pig and the school from turning a blind eye.
I read the case a few times it sounds like the family might have a few legs to stand on. I’m not a lawyer. We will have to wait and see.
apparently thats what this discussion is about… if the school is at fault at all.. I in no way support or defend the guy at all.. I have a stepdaughter who is 12, and I don’t want her in a situation like this however.. I and my fiance teach her to have values and morals.. I don’t leave it up to the school to teach her about sex, or the real life consequences..
How many times does it have to be said – HE WAS NOT HER COACH AND HE WAS NOT HER TEACHER. He worked for another entity, which may or may not be financially supported in full by CVA. I believe that CVA helps support the S/CVA competition program, but it is also supported by other sources, including the parents of the program participants. Then why are JD’s parents not suing all those who support the operation of S/CVA program? Perhaps they are only looking for money from those with the deepest pockets or the insurance coverage to pay the damages.
These are kids – under age 21, the absolute age of majority throughout this country. They both made a mistake in judgment. The state of Colorado recognized this in their judgment. The state of Colorado has more compassion for both of these kids than any of you. Both of them have a chance to learn from this mistake and grow up to be successful members of our community.
However, I not only see the comments condemning the boy – yes he is a boy – but also trashing the girl for normal human behavior for their ages, albeit not socially acceptable by our society, especially her parents. Our community should be more supportive of these children rather than trying to destroy two young lives. As for the parents, their continuing this for the sake of money is only causing more pain and anguish for their daughter.
I am a female senior citizen…yes, 16 year olds were having sex with 19 year olds back in my day – but no one talked about it and certainly no one tried to make a million bucks over it. Let us teach these kids “personal” responsibility instead of the blame game and how to go after the most money to be had!
Well said. Unless there was a forcible rape, which I doubt, this case is about two teenagers who decided to hook up with each other. Now the daughter’s life will be opened up and carefully and exhaustively dissected in a pretrial discovery process that will cause much more harm for this youngster than anything else her parents could have done. I could be wrong; this could have been a forcible rape or something other than two teenagers just getting it on, but I doubt it, in which case the parents’ conduct in bringing this lawsuit is appalling.
This young lady’s parent’s sound like they have a very good chance of winning this lawsuit and as well they should. The school has an obligation to keep their charges safe and allowing a convicted sex offender to be on their payroll at any capacity is deplorable and they should be held accountable.
I think his conviction was a consequence of the incident(s) that are the subject of this lawsuit, and the school fired him when they were told what had happened.
Thanks for the clarification. Sometimes one should just not multi-task :)
The school did not fire him. They fired the coach that tried to bring it out in the open. Sorry you don’t have your facts straight. His mother worked for the school that’s how he got hired and that is why he did not get fired.
You’re crazy. I’m getting my facts from the article, which says that when the school found out about the incident between the coach and the student, it terminated it’s relationship with the coach and notified the girl’s parents and the authorities.
Read the case. It will give you more information. That is not what happened.
When you say the “case” what do you mean – the complaint filed in federal court by the plaintiffs’ lawyer?
I lost my virginity when I was 16. My only regeret was the meat head I lost it to. I’d like to think though, that it has had no impact on my life since that highschool boyfriend. My husband and I met in HS, but didn’t date till college. While we’ve been together seven years this Feb, we just got married a year ago and have a beautiful baby boy. Neither of us have been previously married, have other childern, and there has been NO abuse what so ever. I understand that science has proven that a human brian does not fully develop until the age of 25, and being on the other side of that now, I can see better what they mean. However, despite the fact that 16 year olds aren’t ready to make those choices, they do. They make choices about sex, drugs, classes, friends, etc. They may not be able to see long term..but they DO (so long as their parents taught them) know right from wrong when they are 16. She had the choice to say no. Maybe the school should re-think their choice on having a 19 year old who ALSO does not have a fully developed brain in a position of authority. All three partys should hold SOME responsibility.
Excellent post, Danni! You’ve done well. Congratulations on a job well done. You show a high level of maturity.
I agree, well said.
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I wonder if this was the 16 year old’s first sexual encounter…. raging hormones, inappropriate TV, movies, video games, and all. “turn on the tube and what do you see? a whole lot of people screaming please **** me — get over it!” (a little diversion from an Eagle’s song)
So let me ask you a question. What if she were raped, beaten and than killed. How would you feel about this case? Or perhaps raped and than beaten? Or raped and killed? Would you feel like “Get over it”? Does someone have to be murdered for everyone to say what he did was wrong? Please respond.
I just read some of your other posts – sounds like you have some personal vendetta against Carabasset.
No not against Carrabassett Valley I’m against any establishment that feels they can just get away with breaking the law. Look at the wakenhut case. Why should an establishment feel they can hire people without doing background checks. What makes Carrabassett Valley Academy they can hire an unqualified coach and he rapes somebody and they get to go on without missing a beat. Meanwhile these two teenagers lives have been turned around. How is that fair. Why didn’t the school train him or warn him. That is Bull crap.
So…..if teens at 16 are mentally incapable of making decisions that can effect the rest of their lives, why do we let them start applying for colleges as early as 16? Why do we let them have driver’s licenses? Stop allowing people – teen or not – to pass the buck for their decisions.
Should the guy be banned from working in a school? For sure. Should the parents/girl be awarded the money because their precious angel decided to have sex? No. It would be a completely different story if it was coerced or forced, but it wasn’t as far as anyone has admitted to.
NOTE: I DIDN’T say 16 year olds are incapable of making decisions–I said they are incapable of making decisions about sex at 16. Quite a difference. It appears that lots of posters here like to try and twist what was actually posted to fit their own agenda. If the BDN did this it would open up a whole new can of worms. Just read the words–respond if you wish, but for Pete’s Sake, stop twisting what was written.
Unless you were there. You have no idea what happened behind closed doors. So here are the facts: The coach pleaded guilty. He said so himself in front of a judge. CVA hired him and CVA would not fire him cause his mother works for the school. Do the math? Should Carrabassett Valley Academy be held accountable?
Sugarmom & freddiestevens = mom & dad????
My youngest is 43! Next stupid question……??
This sort of thing never happened in the 1950s or 60s.
Kinda makes Dirty Dancing seem a lot dirtier.
why else would they troll around seemingly having a definite answer in reply to everyones comment….maybe nothing better to do???
That’s why her name is sugarmom…..looking for a sweet payday
sounds like mommy and daddy are pissed that their little girl is finally learning to “ride”
Your comment is distasteful. So, bring it on Trey Feyler!!! What do you think Darienzzo’s mommy is saying?
I am from
TX and we are just being informed about this news story. After reading the
blogs I have to say this story is about a coach having sex with a student. It
is not about the “consensual” sex between two people it is the faith
and the honor we place on our schools and our educators including our coaching
staff. For a school in this case CVA to not fire this coach immediately is a
disgrace! Have we as a society lost the information that we just gained at Penn State.
What is the difference? The staff at CVA turned the other check and hoped it
would just go away. Again this story is not about two people having sex it’s
about a coaches lack of control and sleeping with a student and that my friends
is against the law!
I am from
TX and we are just being informed about this news story. After reading the
blogs I have to say this story is about a coach having sex with a student. It
is not about the “consensual” sex between two people it is the faith
and the honor we place on our schools and our educators including our coaching
staff. For a school in this case CVA to not fire this coach immediately is a
disgrace! Have we as a society lost the information that we just gained at Penn State.
What is the difference? The staff at CVA turned the other check and hoped it
would just go away. Again this story is not about two people having sex it’s
about a coaches lack of control and sleeping with a student and that my friends
is against the law!