BANGOR, Maine — A local woman whose teenage daughter had sex with a man 10 years her senior is unhappy that he will spend just two months in jail.
The prosecutor believes the sentence is fair.
Jaime Percival, 26, of Bangor waived indictment last week at the Penobscot Judicial Center and pleaded guilty to one count of sexual abuse of a minor, a Class C felony, according to Michael Roberts, deputy district attorney for Penobscot County.
Percival admitted that he had a sexual relationship with the victim when she was 15 from April to June 2011. The age of consent in Maine is 16.
“[My daughter’s] now 16,” the victim’s mother, whose name is being withheld to avoid identifying the girl, said in a victim impact statement provided to the court. “She should be out having fun with her friends, getting a job, learning to drive, thinking about starting to date. These things are out of her reach now with the defendant free to roam the streets, move where he wants, work where he wants.
“[My daughter], what does she get? She gets mistrust, fear, no job in the public where he can stalk her, no after-school activities where he can show up,” the woman continued. “No walks down the street out of my sight. This sentence doesn’t even keep the defendant on probation until she’s out of high school.”
District Court Judge Gregory Campbell sentenced Percival on March 20 to 18 months in prison with all but two months suspended and two years of probation, Roberts said Wednesday. Percival also must register as a sex offender for 10 years.
Conditions of his probation include no contact with the victim or her family, no unsupervised contact with children under the age of 18 and sex offender counseling.
In addition to the sexual abuse charge, the defendant pleaded guilty to an unrelated drunken driving charge. Percival was sentenced on that charge to 48 hours in jail and ordered to pay a $500 fine — the mandatory sentence and fine for a first offense, the prosecutor said.
The judge ordered that Percival serve the sentences concurrently.
Percival surrendered himself to the Penobscot County Jail on March 21, according to jail personnel.
Roberts recommended the sentence that Campbell imposed.
Percival’s attorney, Gene Sullivan of Bangor, agreed to the 18-month underlying sentence but argued that his client should serve less than two months, the defense attorney said Thursday.
“There is no doubt that the sex was consensual,” Sullivan said. “Her victim impact statement presented to the judge, however, did not correspond with the many notes she sent my client.”
Roberts said the sentence was fair and in line with similar cases in which no force or compulsion was involved and the defendant had no criminal record.
Percival and the victim met through family friends, according to the prosecutor.
First of all,
This man should have known better and deserves to be punished for his behavior. It appears that the girl in this case may have been a willing participant in this. Perhaps that was the mitigating factor. If we should take mitigating factors into consideration is debatable. In my opinion anyone with any common sense would stay away from teenage girls no matter how agressive or willing they seem. An adult should know better.
Yup! The old term JAIL BAIT applies here. Run, don’t walk, even if a girl is crawling all over you. Don’t know what happened here, but it was statutory rape; plain and simple.
Yes, and regardless of this girls actions(if there were any) he should have known better and be going to jail.
I thought the reason we have an age of consent law is to define at exactly what age a person can give consent for sex. Regardless of whether she was willing she was under the age of consent, so by definition the sex could not be consensual. This is sickening and this judge is sick, and should be removed. How many more children have to be sexually abused before we stand up as a society and say ENOUGH!!!!
Thats what i said about the brownville mother case . She got 5 years for letting a teens drink . Compared to child molesters. I here to say it it was consentual. Well she should have been punished but taking the kids away from a mother to place them in DHHS care to be seem like a far worse crime. Give Harry some credit . Man made a mistake yes but I would not make him out as a pedophile . If he was 19 is would have been legal.
Apples and oranges to a degree.In the drinking case,the other families had a reasonable expectation that their kids would be safe with that mother.They weren’t.Fortunately nothing worse happened.
In the above case,the mother was responsible for exactly one person.Two different scenarios.
I worked with a woman some years ago who had a 13 y/o daughter.This girl was 5’8″,fully developed and looked/dressed/acted much older.She was going out with a 20 y/o with her mom’s permission b/c “that way he can drive her around,so I don’t have to”?!?!?!
Consenting or not, he knew she was under the age of consent, two months is a joke. Shame on the courts of Maine for making a mockery of justice.
so you want taxpayers to pay out $30-40,000 per year to house this individual? not to mention this is apparently his first offense.. hate to say it, but there are “real” criminals out there.. yes I know it sounds calous, and un-caring, but it is reality. I on the other hand think the death penalty should re-visit the state of maine.. I believe our last “death by hanging” was an inmate, who stabbed the warden at MSP, Thomaston in 1880….
Well I’m sure the sex offenders will be glad to hear that they are not “real” criminals.
believe me I’m not for sex offenders by any means.. I think they’re scum of the earth who should be castrated upon conviction.. but I am morally obligated to let them live because someone over a hundred years ago thinks death is not a severe enough punishment. that making them live is punishment enough… sadly I have had to work with/for these scumbags and I’m sad to say the more time they serve will not help them.. they will not “reform” most if not all are repeat offenders, and will continue to commit the same crime over and over again.. hate to say it but no amount of counseling is going to “get the bad out”.
if word gets out about their crimes (just read the BDN) the other inmates in for more violent crimes “hate” child molesters.. they will harass, and quite literally beat the snot out of them if they so much as mention their crime in prison/jail.
there is honor amongst criminals..
your best bet to keep ones like this away is to get on the Maine state police website, and look at the sex offender registry.. I bet there’s a red dot in your neighborhood. be mindful of your surroundings, and let your children know who you do and don’t want them being around. you are the adult and are responsible for your child until age 18. You should always build the trust between you and your child/young adult that they can tell you anything without threat of retaliation.
here is honor amongst criminals?
“He’s a child molestor” is usually just an excuse for an inmate to attack another. They do whatever seems most convenient.
He is not a child molester that girl volenteely had sex with him and i bet many times too. He should have known better I agree. But so did the girl. It was the girls mother that flipped out once she found out.
And why was her little girl running wild and out having sex?
LoL probably the adult man followed her out of town every time she left town to visit relatives and snuck onto the grandparents property at 3 am in the AM
Stop it!!! There IS no honor amongst criminals. A huge percentage of prisoners at Warren are all in for the same crime. They stick together in the slam. Your are sadly misinformed.
apparently neither of you has worked corrections… it’s a completely different world you know nothing about… and no you can’t learn about it by watching “locked-up”..
Yeah, like you know so much. Convicts are just as likely to kill each other over a candy bar.
So he should shoot a cop before he surrenders, then he can be prison king.
And yet if they had been married 5 minutes prior it would have been perfectly acceptable. Does marriage or a year have that big an effect on maturity?
there’s a age of consent even in marriage…. Todays children are not nearly as mature as our grand parents were at the same age.
I disagree, today’s children are far more mature then they were years ago, and they dress much more provocatively.
good thing your opinion doesn’t matter
neither does yours honey
sorry to tell you, but yeah, hers does. :)
I love chat threads. Remember all, we have just as much right to freedom of speech as someone else has to not give a hoot about what you just said.
Exactly
Just as I’m allowed to say your opinion means jack to me? Yeah, I’m aware of Freedom of Speech, kids. Thanks for the update. :)
Not on here, none of our opinions matter, get over yourself
The kids are more worldly today then years ago but in no way more mature. Mature people take responsibilty for themselves and their actions. Immature people look for ways to make others responsible for what they do or what happens to them.
Liberals.
The kids are more worldly today then years ago but in no way more mature. Mature people take responsibilty for themselves and their actions. Immature people look for ways to make others responsible for what they do or what happens to them.
dressing provocatively actually proves how far less mature today’s teens are. And this little 14 year old girl did not dress provocatively when this pedophile began ‘grooming’ her to be his victim.
I never said she did, but many certainly do, which I blame the parents for.
Just pointing out this girl was almost 16 when this happened according to the article. I am assuming you knew her to state how she dressed when this all started.
EDIT: I went to a link on an article pubilshed in January that stated she was 14 and has since turned 15. It also states he is 27 where this one claims he’s 26. I’m guessing this one is wrong.
that would be like saying a rape victim deserved it because of the way she dressed… amazing how very little we’ve come in educating women. I am so very saddened by this
Way to take things WAY out of context. By stating that girls nowadays dress more provocatively is like saying a rape victim deserved it? You’re outta your mind!
Well you wouldn’t go parading in an new york housing project wearing a kkk outfit would you?
Really? because when one actually looks at the laws pertaining to statutory rape and unlawful sexual touching every statute stipulates that the accused must not be the spouse of the ”victim”. There is no minium age to get married in maine as long as the couple get written consent from parents and a written consent of a judge.
So you are actually wrong. As for maturity of teenagers these days, there are arguments to be made on both sides and its all mostly subjective.
We have a saying here in Texas “16 will get you 20” (:
16 is way to young.
16 year olds have lead armies, ruled kingdoms, and fought in wars long before ‘bushfan’s” were considered conservative. In Romeo & Juliet the Young lady was 14, and the boy was 16.
Society can not realisticly set chronilogical age limits on a precise time when this activity may begin. Humans attain their peak sexuality between 14 and 22. All the laws in the world will not change that….and get ready for another change as puberty is begining at younger and younger ages.
I personally believe the age difference here is too great, but if the male had been 19 instead of 26, this still would have been the same crime under the law. Ruining a young man’s life over this crime seems excessive. Calling him a “sexual offender, and comparing him to the scumm who rape children seems (to me) reprehensible.
…to young for a 26 year old for sure.
If he was 19, it would still be a crime, but I personally wouldn’t have seen it as so heinous. Unfortunately he was 27 at the time, and that is FAR too big an age difference. The rule of thumb to not be a perv: Take your age, divide it in half, and add 7. That is the youngest age you can date without seeming incredibly creepy. In this jerk’s case, he shouldn’t have been dating anyone younger than 20 – and certainly not sleeping with her. It’s called self control and he should have exercised it. Why did he spend all his time stalking the young lady instead of maybe hitting the bar and finding someone his own age?
Your opinion but not that of the 63-year-old Frank Sinatra who married Mia Farrow when she was 19.
Mia already had a career and her own life under her belt. That was also a different time, my dear.. back then when you were 19 you went to college (for 4 years, not majoring in “general education” and dragging it out as long as you can to avoid having to get a job) or moved the hell out of your parent’s house. Now, living at home until you’re 30 is “normal.” I’m not sure if Mia would have been quite as alluring if she were still shacked in her parent’s basement.
Either way, the celebrity world is different than the rest of us peons. And in any world, 19 is legal and 15 is not. A 19 year old high school graduate is a lifetime away from a 15 year old freshman.
How about steven tyler marrying a 16 year old? Or doug huchison marrying courtney stodden? Does money make it alright? I’m guessing if this guy were a millionaire the mother would be singing a different tune.
Tell that to your grandparents.
It wasn’t that long ago that 12 year old brides were common in this country. Because once a girl has her first period, in many cultures around the world even today, she’s considered to be “ready”. Ever watch National Geographic?
My own sister was married at 14. They’ve been together now for decades. So don’t let your imaginations run too wild that somebody is too young. “Rape”? I don’t consider consentual sex rape in cases like this. The law may say otherwise, but the law can be wrong.
Many of our laws are based on puritan Christianity. And like Islam, has trouble meshing with modern times or human nature.
I say 2 months is a fair sentence. Because the girl could have said no, but didn’t…
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Funny how most want to nail this guy to a cross and burn it. Lets see about 1 in 3 people were sexually abuse. most by family members or people close to families . A lot of abused people were abuse by more than 1 person. Any Idea how many real child molesters are out thier? Seem to be most will never be brought to court. I fact Most that are reported are never brought to court. I do not condone what he did . Just think this was fair.
Let someone harm one of my children, being nailed to a burning cross would be the LEAST of their worries.
Well lets think to back then….there were no medications or even diagnosis to many ailments that people died of at a young age so the life-span of many individuals was what 20-25 years of age. They had to get married and start their lives because in many cases they were not going to live full lives to the ripe age of 60, 70, or even 80+. Many adults are aware of the fact that you do not truly live and learn until you hit 26+. Children at age 12, 14, or even 16 have not lived life fully enough as a mature adult to fully know the ramifications for their actions, so how can you judge a child and not the mature adult in this situation, and blame her for all this? This is NOT the 1800’s this is the 20th century where the law CLEARLY dictates that 15 is NOT the age of consent, and a crime was committed here.
While I respect your opinion, let me explain to you how the real damage occurs in a case like this.
The couple obviously enjoy each other’s company. This was not a one night stand in the backseat of a Ford. To them, as young lovers, they saw nothing wrong. But here comes the hook…
“Society” will lay total blame on the male and demand justice. While at the same time, society will call the female a victim and make sure she understands that she is. They’ll drive the point home time and time again. While in her heart, she saw nothing wrong, but with society’s help, an inner conflict develops.
When you convince someone they are a victim, they begin to manifest a victim’s mentality. Depression. Anger. Even suicide. Now, who has done the most damage here? The boy, or society?
Had you left these two alone, their lives would have continued happily until they either married or drifted apart on their own. Now two lives are ruined. Society may mean well, but sometimes your cure is worse than your illness.
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I do see your point as well. The issue is that the parent in question was NOT okay with a grown man having relations with her MINOR daughter. The real damage was done when a grown man took advantage of a young girl, willing or not. . Our children need us to be in their corner whether to discipline when wrong and correct the bad behavior, or to be in their corner when wrong is done to them. Being a supposed mature adults, if it was true love, or what not, they should have respected the mother’s wishes and waited until she was of consenting age, not hide it. Why do people hide things? Because they KNOW its is wrong.
You say that they were two young lovers and making her out to be a victim can create depression, etc. How about those who were conditioned to think something like this is okay and they are NOT victims. Depression, anxiety, and thoughts of suicide will exist as well. I look at it this way, if it was MY child/children under MY roof, that I take care of and raise that I am responsible for Lord help the person who tries to take advantage of my children’s young age they will wish they lived in Maine and gotten off so light. All those that think it is okay for a grown man to sex up a child using the “she wanted it” excuse are sick. That excuse is what is used by 99% of serial rapists.
I too respect everyone’s opinions, while they are only opinions and everyone is entitled their two cents worth so again here are my 2 cents. (:
I have also seen the acceptance in “Society” where the roles were reversed. Since it was an adult female and a minor boy for too long that was accepted, UNTIL it started entering our school system with young boys and female teachers. My point is whether it was a girl or boy, what if this man was a teacher, I mean he was 26 years old, I know teachers of that age group…it would NOT be okay, why is it here? Its a slipping of standards and accepted “allowances” in each case. The more we allow things like this to happen, the worse our morals and society gets.
There’s a lot of wiggle room in regards to “morals”.
Legal age throughout much of Europe is 16. And many countries would just let this kind of thing slide. Not that it wouldn’t be punished, but it wouldn’t be punished by draconian laws left over from a certain old tyme religion.
In the United States, we cling to our kids till they’re 18. Coddle them. Is this to their advantage or does it feed something on our side of want/need? This kind of subject provokes way too many bad emotions in people. Kneejerk reactions. And the first thing that leaves the room is rational thought. Some of you would see this individual hang for such an offense.
Perhaps it says more about you and your culture than it does about him and his morals?
I’ve spent a large part of my life studying the human mind. If there’s one theme that appears time and time again, it’s people often mate with people outside their own age groups. It’s instinctively driven. You can’t stop that. Religions and governments have tried for centuries. No success. But they’ve created a lot of human wreckage in the process of enforcing “the law”.
The best we can do is set guidelines and look at cases on an individual basis. And we need to give judges and other legal people the ability to do that instead of looking at a book and reading out a sentence written by people long ago who have no direct connection to the case.
Compassion. Most of you are Christians, so here’s your test. Were you to bring this couple before Jesus for judgement, would he be as harsh as you? Would his intimate understanding of the human condition say differently than your emotionally driven desire for revenge?
I think you already know the answer.
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We wouldn’t have to “coddle” them till they were 18 if the law did not state WE are responsible for EVERYTHING our children do until they reach the age of 18. Since that law is in effect, they miss too much school or skip school, WE the parents are to blame. They get in fights, get kicked out of school, WE the parent are to blame. The commit a crime…again WE are to blame. So yes we parents may coddle our children too long, but we are made to or conditioned to by the laws that are in place.
I am not aware of anyone saying the man must die for what he did or be stoned to death. (Although it would have been a hard thing to keep me from doing had it happened to one of my children, Christian or not…I would be prepared to accept consequences for my actions.) Two months in the County Jail is a cake walk and pretty much says to the offender and other sexual offenders out there…here you go buddy have a mini vacation, three hots and a cot. Being put on the sex offenders list for 10 years…really…wow that is so harsh. I know plenty who have made stupid mistakes being 18 or 19 and getting mixed up with a 16 year old who lied about their age. Was their life ruined? No, they make damn sure from that point on they know 100% someones age before attempting any relations with them. Why? Because one little mistake costed them 2 years in prison and made to be on a list where anyone around these small towns can look at their names and most people know who they are. Did they learn from this? You can count on it. Was this a one time thing on the defendants part in this case? Who knows, hopefully it was, although him stalking her around AFTER chargers were filed would say different in my eyes.
Oh. YES! This is a news story… BDN patrons are gonna have a field day with this.
RELEASE THE HOUNDS!!!
Woof!
The Moms overreacting is probably harming the girl mentally more than the coitus did.
Maybe if the offender didn’t move into the victims neighborhood and stalk her friends and school bus stops…. she wouldn’t “over react” 2 bail violations and a stalking charge were dropped as part of the plea bargin
I totally agree with you!!!!
apparently YOU don’t have any daughters. or maybe you have an adult son that likes to sleep with teenage girls.
The mom was overreacting? How is a mother supposed to react when her own daughter is taken advantage of sexually by a dirt bag 12 years older than her? I hope you never reproduce.
Mom: change your last name and take your daughter far away.
RiGHT!!!
If you want your daughter to remain anonymous, you probably shouldn’t post here using your FB, which you have no privacy settings on. Anyone here can click on your name and it takes them directly to your open to the public page. For the sake of your daughters privacy, I would fix that. Good luck to you and your daughter, I hope that she can get through this as peacefully as possible.
RiGHT!!!
Good points
I agree. Coming on here and posting that this was your daughter was not the right thing to do. You just hurt her as badly as the criminal here, posting your information, which could be tracked back to you and your daughter. If you are taking that sort of disregard towards your daughter’s safety (which is YOUR responsibility, not law enforcement’s), what is there to keep DHHS from taking your daughter into custody for bringing her to personal harm? Think, woman. Think. Drop the self-entitled holier-than-thou horn tooting act, and find a way to undo what you just did. Pathetic.
Mommy dearest isn’t the only family member on here I’m guessing by some of the comments.
To those concerned I have not used my real legal name when posting here… there for wasn’t in anyway putting my daughter at risk… Nor Have I used her name. I am sorry people have taken this thread to a personal level to where they feel they need to try going to my facebook page. Thank you to all of my friends and people for all your kind words
Nobody has to “try” to go to your fb page. Your name on here is highlighted in blue, it is a direct link to your fb page. You need to make your profile private. You can do that that by creating a Discus account with a screen name and make that private, or go to your fb privacy settings and make that private too. It’s sound advice.
Yup, thats nice! 2 months for ruining a child’s life. If you get caught selling a bag of pot, you get two years!
you realize she probably started having sex a year or two before this….like alot of the kids do..they just dont get caught. the only difference is this guy was “too old” so it makes the news. My cousin was in the same situation, she lied to keep the guy out of trouble after having consensual sex with a 26 yr old. she was 14 and knew exactly what she was doing. I just hope i can raise my daughter to be more shy and modest…hopefully she’ll wait like I did….. If only we all could teach our daughters not to follow the crowd this way and to fight the hormones of themselves and others…..sigh…
Well, I am sure she didn’t get “caught”. But I would hope HE would know better. This happened to my daughter, who was very shy and modest. You think you can trust family, but let me tell you, you can’t. My daughter was 13 and he was 33. I would have trusted him with my life, and believe me, my daughter was not having sex before that. Men of this age should be punished. They are sick twisted individuals.
I agree. There are many things people can do that is not against the law that anyone with a brain knows they shouldn’t do. This animal preyed on a vulnerable child. Quite honestly, anyone that thinks this is normal scares me a little. I am betting most of the people that write this behavir is normal have no problem posting it on an anonymous non trackable blog. One of the reason DISQUS is so popular is becasue people can say whatever they want in total, and I mean TOTAL, confidence. The BDN doesn’t even know who is posting on this site unless they choose to identify themselves. Try to write a letter to the editor and you have to provide everything shy of a birth certificate. BDN’s policy is much tougher than DISQUS.
I can with no doubt say she was NOT having sex B4 this… it was a clear cut case of a typical, text book case of a sociopathic pedophile. I am shocked at the lack of education the public has on pedophilia. More so knowing Bangor has one of the highest rates of pedophiles per ca pita. We can thank federally funded shelters here in Bangor for that . Do your research people.
Hey, I’m with you 100%. I think we should designate a special area just for pedophiles and perverts that sits far, far away from us law abiding citizens. Main Street in Bangor within a stones throw of neighborhoods and schools is hardly far enough away for my comfort. My policy on this subject is 100% ZERO tolerance. I also raised children and only by the grace of God did they turn out as successful as they did with no issues. There is no parent that can be there 100% of the time, and if a parent could, I would hate to see the social skills of that child. There are so many perverts out there forcing themselves or their perverted agenda on our chilren it is scary. We as parents had better interfere with their lives to make sure they get another view other than the one they are being sold in todays sick and twisted society.
All that said, I am personally very sorry for your troubles.
Oh and on the subject of posting here I’ll give you a quick tip. There are a few people, the same old people, some have more than 1 user name, posting on this site. The posters on this site make up for less that 1/1000th of 1% of the readers of this fine paper. I wouldn’t get to carried away trying to satisfy the opinion of a bunch of self proclaimed experts that hide behind some bogus screen name with no recourse for any garbage they spew. I fit into this profile, I have way too much time on my hands and find this type of dialog entertaining. It probably isn’t as entertaining as gambling, facebook or bathsalts, none of them are my choice, but I still throw my hat into this “entertainment arena”. That is all this is. If I had a tregedy hit my life the last place I would go would be to this comment blog of hateful fools. Typiclly the people are uneducated and cruel and have yet to live or experience much adversity in life. Experts say many still live in mommy and daddys basement. Like I said, I know, I enjoy laughing at many of these posts but your issue isn’t a laughing matter.
God Bless
How would you know that with any degree of certainty? Young girls with tell their parents exactly what they want to hear to avoid punishment or disappointment.
According to this acticle the young lady in question was sending this guy notes that completely went against her “victim impact statement”, guess she would lie huh?
letters? There was no evidence of any letters. It was reported to the detective by the defendant that all letters were destroyed… Interesting
A note!? Are you kidding me. SO if a 13 year old kid wrote a 25 year old guy a note saying whatever that makes it okay? NO it is NOT okay!!!!! As the ADULT in the situation, he should have walked away, advanced made or not by the child. There is an old term “It takes a village to raise a child.” Meaning that any clear minded, responsible adult KNOWS that it is wrong and should be the one to stand up and say NO, not play into it and get his/her “rocks” off.
I’m not disagreeing here relax
Sounds like you are one of “them”. That is sick and anyone who does this once to a child should be castrated, or left in jail for a very, very long time!
very nicely said! They are sick people and need to be off the streets!!
When I was 20 and staying at a friends house a 14 year old girl who lived there climbed into my bed one night. Naked, woke me up and said; “Well, are you going to do it.” Jail Bait, I kicked her out and LEFT.
Another time when I was 22I was visiting a friend and having coffee one morning. The baby sitter, maybe 15, came by to talk about babysitting that evening. My friend went out side to take care of something in the barn. The girl walked up to me, wrapped her arms around my neck and proceeded to kiss. Then leaned back so I could get an even better view of her “assets”, squirmed against me, and said “Would you like to see my bedroom?” I said “no way”, unhooked her arms, put down my coffee cup, and RAN for the barn to help my friend.
COOL STORY BRO!
He plagiarized the story from Penthouse Forum………..
..and that’s EXACTLY what this piece of crap should have done IF the young lady had made any kind of advances toward him. No one was there to know exactly what happened between the two of them. Maybe she was the one to initiate it. The fact of the matter is, she is a teenager who is going to make stupid decisions and try stupid things, and he is a full grown adult – not even a young adult – and his responsibility is to thwart off those advances. There is a reason the adults, not the children, are punished in statutory rape cases. Because they KNOW BETTER! Teenagers are supposed to be focused on school and friends and activities and maybe a job. This man manipulated her mind.
Any female over the age of 18 remembers what it was like to be a teenager, especially if you weren’t the most popular or beautiful – whenever a guy shows you attention, especially an older guy, all logical thought goes right out the window. This young lady comes from a single mom home. She has no male influence in her daily life. This guy shows up and acts as a stand in father figure to her – and takes advantage of it. Two months is a joke.
I do not know the details of this particular situation. Maybe, even likely, he was the predator. And MAYBE she was. And most girls will lie like the devil once caught to cover their own a**….
My own stories happened close to 40 years ago and those are only 2 stories of MANY I could tell. Not all about me either, but friends and other people as well. The first girl was pregnant less than 6 months after she tried to have sex with me. Lucky for the guy responsible he was only 16. And things have gotten much worse in the years since.
This is one of the prices we are paying for sexualizing our children at younger and younger ages. And in many cases the parents themselves are responsible. I have seen far too many girls in their early teens who could pass for being 18 and purposefully did so.
Another part of this is the attitude society has now of being non-judgmental and telling young people that anything goes. Society now tells young adults that they are not responsible and are still children far into their 20’s. Stay on your parents insurance until you are 26. Stay in college as long as you can and almost any bad behavior there will be excused. And somehow you think that some young stud in his 20’s is magically going to take responsibility and do what is right. In my own case I was scared of two things back then. Getting a girl pregnant and / or going to jail. Both much more likely possibilities at that time. Now, unless someone like this mother find out about it and pushes the issue most everyone goes “ho hum” and blows it off as no big deal. I know of more than one parent who lets their teen age daughter have her much older boyfriend sleep over or in some cases the daughter stays at his house. And HIS parents think there is nothing wrong with it as well.
And this is just another reason why single parent households are part of the problem. I’m sure someone will point out how “judgmental” that is and how they know a single parent whose kids turned out great or they even are a single parent and they assure us their kids are angels…. The statistics say different.
That was good of you. You did the right thing. The man in this story should have done the same thing. Nobody stops to think, that maybe these types of girls ( I am not saying the girl in the story has had these problems by any means) have been abused before and they think it is the right thing for them to do. I would hope you notified someone about their behavior so this could be looked into. It is a sad thing.
Sure, I should just call up her mother and say “your daughter just climbed into bed naked with me and wanted me to have sex with her.” Talk about asking for major trouble including being accused of being the instigator. I’m not that stupid. Lucky for me there were other people in the house that could back me up. Of course, there is more to the story. She climbed into bed with me because she was mad at her boyfriend down stairs passed out in a chair. Two hours earlier he and I had a drinking contest with shots of tequila. He passed out. I won.
I was no choir boy back then, had a major drinking problem and like many young idiots liked to party. I just didn’t believe in taking advantage of young girls. Would have been different if she had been 18.
My hat goes off to you. And if she was with her boyfriend she was probably doing it already with him. If mothers could only this happening.
Kudos to you for being the RESPONSIBLE adult ;)
Your lucky she didn’t get mad and say you did it anyway.
This girl’s life isn’t ruined. She however, has to live with the choices that SHE made. Hopefully she will be taught how to make better choices in the future and not think of herself as a helpless victim. I hope she will becomes a strong, intelligent, educated woman who thinks before she acts.
Believe me, I know she made the wrong choices, but at that age, she does not know any better. Its an older man, and he should know better. I wish her the best as well.
You’re blaming the child? “choices that SHE made” Oh my!
What you’re saying is, in the small time frame of two months, or however long it was from the event to her birthday she would mature enough to be able to understand the decisions she made? While the man should not have done what did with her, I still believe she made the choice as well. This country’s arbitrary laws of consent, smoking, etc can be a bit ridiculous at times.
He’s on the list for ten years.Good luck getting a job.His life is ruined.Not that I’m shedding a tear.
Jokes on us, we get to pay for his maincare, ebt, police protection from harassment and probably housing. He might as well have been elected senator because its got the same perks.
Except he can’t carry a gun in his car.
The state gets upset when it doesn’t get its fair share of taxes from a lucrative drug deal. Sex isn’t taxable unless its prostitution. You would see a stiffer jail sentence if this were prostitution.
So what and who would all you posters convict of a crime if you have a 16 yr old girl having sex with a 14 yr old boy?
Ohhhhhh, Thats EZ!
1. G W Bush
2. Paul LePage
3. Jeff Gordon
It is always one of those 3.
if the ages were that close I’d say let teenagers be teenagers…. there’s a big difference when you abuse someones trust in you AND there’s an ADult (26-27) yr old male abusing a (14-15) yr olds trust
So you’d be ok with your daughter dropping her drawers for a 16-17 year old then huh?
Let teenagers be teenagers right?
I think any parent would be disappointed yes. Is it legally wrong or criminal no. Just stop and think about the differences they bring to the experience. One is two teens fumbling around. The other is a grown adult male pushing sick and twisted sexual behavior on a child who has no reference point to what she’s “consenting to”. with a 12 yr difference. Why would a 27 year old grown male even have any interest in a freshman in high school? Says everything about him and nothing about her other than she trusted the wrong person.
Nothing because the age of consent laws in Maine have a “Romeo and Juliet” clause which allows sexual contact between individuals who are within 5 years of age. A 16 year old with a 14 year old is not illegal. a 20 year old with a 14 year old is statutory rape. This guy was 26, and she was 15. Not even close to legal.
One would think that if I knew my daughter was seeing a man much older than her, I would HIS major issue. Now the mother is saying all the things the girl cannot do, like “walking down the street” , really? I truly believe this wack job belongs in jail and for a lot longer than a couple months, but I also think the mother needs to pay a little more attention to her daughter. Some thing here just is not right.
what’s probably not right is the fact that this article doesn’t come close to telling the real story Look for the earlier article done in early January.
http://bangor-launch.newspackstaging.com/2012/01/03/news/police-beat/bangor-man-27-charged-with-felony-sexual-abuse-of-a-minor/?ref=relatedBox
I don’t think he will have a pleasant stay , so with that being said….. ( I’ll let you all figure that one out)
Too bad that wasn’t the case. He isn’t serving hard time. He has nothing to worry about with a 2 month sentance.
You’ve got to be kidding. Maybe they should just put up a big sign that says “Child Molesters Welcome Here”
Maine has the worse and weakest laws for sex offenders this is all to common we see THEM get very little time in jail or prison
Two months for a felonious sex offender and 4 years for the marijuana guy…. haha
I’m supposed to respect this?
its funny isn’t it? we’re right on the verge of having marijuana legalized, and having a quarter bag gets you more time than the man damn near 30 years old that stalks, manipulates, and preys on a vulnerable teenage girl. And be free to do it again in 60 days.
Calling the offender of a 14 year old girl her “sex partner” is beyond appalling!! He’s a convicted pedophile. Yet Judy Harrison titles her article in such an offensive way?
You’re all saying she was 16. Just another error by the author Judy Harrison. It began at 14 and was discovered at 15.
I replied to a comment you posted earlier in the thread and thought this might be the case. You think they would get their facts straight, especially with something so controversial…
I see they’ve changed the heading from ”
Mother unhappy with 2-month jail sentence for daughter’s sex partner” to the one now showing… now will BDN correct the remaining factual erros?
look in the browser address bar still says sex partner *smh* how tacky
Penobscot County’s Sandra Fluke.
I can tell from the entries that many are not well versed in how a child molester/ pedophile works… They take someone and brain wash them …. in this case his best friends little sister. This adult male took advantage of her knowing how innocent she was and how much she trusted him… do a little pedophilia research.
It’s called “grooming” the victim.
I think the clinical term is “sick and twisted”.
Depends on the girl I guess, some that age are actually extremely mature and in some cases could actually be the agressor. This whole thing is akin to a 20 year old drinking.
Acting mature is a whole different thing that actually being mature.
Oh absolutely, but I see maturity as more of a person to person basis. for instance some people move out at 18, others live at home till they are 25.
Yes and I can cite for example my daughter and step-daughter. While one is on the verge of womanhood and 16 years old, the other is 10 and still very much a child in her own right. While the 10 year old is far more mature than many 18 year olds I know… the 16 year old is vastly under mature for her age and has to have constant supervision to ensure that things like this do not happen. She has been trusted once…she failed, 2 years later we tried again…big fat FAIL. Not all children are alike in maturity and development so for anyone to say she was old enough really irritates me, because when it happened to me when I was a teen ( and I was a VERY mature and responsible teenager) and I didn’t ask for it, I also did not know what was really going on because I had not lived life enough yet to make such determination.
It is definitely 100 times harder to raise teens now days then it was 100 years ago.
Good ruling justice served swiftly!!
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They are relocating. It’s terrible that they have to uproot their whole lives and always wonder if this guy is going to find out where they go. Unfortunately he can’t be trusted to stay away from them, and orders of protection only last for so long..
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They change it now… little late since it’s gone to print.
Maybe… Just maybe, the reporter could have served the public a much greater service by reporting at the sentencing the defendant admitted to possibly being exposed to AIDS…. and after a momnet or two clarified that the possible exposure was after his assult against his victim. In an OPEN COURT……
“The prosecutor believes the sentence is fair.”
I wonder if the prosecuter would think it is a fair sentence if their child was the victim? This state is far to lenient on sex offenders.
He knew better….BUT the girl was a consenting sexual partner then her mom found out and want nuts about it. I bet if the mom didn’t flip out that this guy would not have even been charged.
The sentance is good except the 10 years to have to register. Since the girl did concent and i bet they had sex many many times he should not have to register as a sex offender.
And now that the girl is 16 as the mom said above it is alright for her to date now. Come on mom get real.
SHE could not consent… she wasn’t of the age of consent and he knew it… Her “consent” wasn’t consent. There was 12 yrs difference… the age of consent is 16 … the Mother did what any DECENT mother would do ;)
Any DECENT mother would not be on here arguing with people that don’t know a thing about this case or your lives.
A decent mother would stand up to any and all attacks against their child by people just like you…. known or unknown…. Makes me wonder just what ur stake is in the thread that you feel the need to keep coming back and stickng up for a clear case of sexual abuse against a minor.. The defendant didn’t even want a trial… he plead guilty. That IS the Bottom line
Oh please, tell me where I’ve stuck up for him? I have not attacked your child either. This is a public forum where ALL opinions are welcome. Does not mean anyone is right or wrong. Most people see these forums as pure entertainment as I do. Don’t get yourself all in a tizzy for pete sake.
You asked I answered I never accused you of attacking anyone. It’s sad you’d find this thread entertaining.
If you were a parent you would be going off too. Mothers have a maternal protection alarm that goes off when they believe their child has come under harm. Yes, many lives have been and can be ruined alone by having to register as a sexual offender, and many times it is over peeing outside in public and a child walked by. Where do we draw the line? Okay lets say this man had consent from the child in question and and for whatever reason was not aware of the laws between age. Once he found out, he should have stopped it immediately and walked away, NOT follow the child and send her notes and presents, clearly engaging in breaking the law he KNEW was wrong. Everyone is all bent on age of consent and she consented. 15 may be close to the age of consent in Maine, but it is NOT the age of consent meaning a crime WAS committed, and the violator should be punished to the victims benefit, not his own or the States own.
I guess you only get serious time if your a pot head.
Wells man gets nearly 4 years for pot offenses
March 30, 2012 10:13 GMT
%reldate(2012-03-30T10:12:12
BANGOR, Maine
(AP) — A Wells man described by his attorney, the prosecutor and a
federal judge as an unlikely candidate to be called a drug dealer has
been sentenced to nearly four years in prison for selling marijuana.
Louis Bailey was sentenced Thursday in U.S. District Court to three
years and 10 months following his arrest in August 2010 at a U.S. Border
Patrol checkpoint set up in the southbound lane of Interstate 95 in Old
Town.
He and another man had 101 pounds of marijuana in their truck at the stop. A search of his home yielded another 188 pounds.
The Bangor Daily News (http://bit.ly/HlGaZD) reports that the
47-year-old Bailey apologized to his wife and family for the pain his
actions had caused them.
His co-defendant has already pleaded guilty.
Information from: Bangor Daily News, http://bangor-launch.newspackstaging.com
I know a person who worked in the corrections system and he told me that if a person is doing time for a sex crime especially a sex crime on a child, that person is a huge target among the prison population.
Depends on the general population at a particular prison. I have worked at some where there were many sex offenders and nothing happens. Then again I have worked at some where RAPIST was carved in their foreheads and are made to be other inmates “punks”.
I knocked the snot out of this kid when I was fifteen, he didnt learn wrong from right then, maybe I should re pay him a visit. Absolutely disgusting and I can truly say my heart goes to this girl and her family.
This is a true showing of how this Country has gone wrong. It is okay for a 26 year old man to have sex with a 15 year old CHILD, but it is NOT okay to download music from the internet. Yes theft is a big issue, but that does NOT excuse the fact that this was statutory RAPE, which is a bigger crime in many parents eye and should be in non-parental eyes as well. We as parents try to protect our children the best we can, and it doesn’t help when the law is clearly NOT behind us in MANY aspects. Kudos to the mother for standing up and trying to fight this and speaking out to raise awareness of how our Laws are truly twisted. We have lost sight of a crime is a crime, there are no excuses or no pleads of ignorance to make any of it okay. Having the age of consent at 16 is just as wrong. In Texas our age of consent is 17, which is still too young. There have been many studies that with the growing hormones in children, sexual activity at that young of an age creates bigger problems mentally within these children. Point being children do not know the risks they undertake having sexual relations at such a young age, thus they should have no business CONSENTING to such actions. Shame on any of you that think this grown man was okay in luring a 15 year old child to have sex with him, and I pray NONE of you have to go through this same ordeal with a clear stalker and predator of children.
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LOL internet
To those concerned I have not used my real legal name when posting here… there for wasn’t in anyway putting my daughter at risk… Nor Have I used her name. I am sorry people have taken this thread to a personal level to where they feel they need to attempt stalk my facebook page. Thank you to all of my friends and people for all your kind words
True.My friend’s mom worked in corrections and anytime they got a sex offender in,especially a high profile case,all the talk among prisoners was “who was going to get him”Many many prisoners have kids/nieces/nephews and despite their mistakes they love their kids the same way.
Two months in County…cake walk for him. Trust when I say he got off with a “pat” on the back.
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